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Only the Wearer Knows, Where the Shoe Pinches

Only the Wearer Knows, Where the Shoe Pinches

Current, the society is plagued with innumerable problems. But is anyone ready to do anything about it? Only a small percentage of those affected do something. Everyone thinks that as long as we are safe, nothing needs to be done. No one except he who is experiencing it knows the cause of a trouble or difficulty. His behaviour is not understood by other because they are unaware of the motive behind it. For example, a man resigned from a highly paid post in a business organisation for no apparent reason, and everyone wondered why.

The truth was that the managing director’s wife had fallen in love with him, which had caused him so much embarrassment that the only way to avoid her was to seek employment elsewhere. THE OLD saying ’Only the wearer knows, where the shoe pinches’, fairly applies to the general attitude of people living in today’s society. The current society is plagued with innumerable problems ranging from lacklustre attitude of civic authorities to corrupt government officials, from declining mental peace to eroding familial values and increasing terror in the society.

But is anyone listening? Is anyone bothered? Does anybody has time to devote to any of the problem areas that the society is facing and do something to at least create an awareness for it, if not make an attempt to solve it? Everyone expects the garbage to be cleaned up by someone else, conveniently ignoring certain basic facts that each one of us is, in some way or the other is responsible for the garbage. The society finds a very easy escape route of any problem that comes.

There are basically three things that everyone in the society, in general, does to address a problem: Ignoring the problem. Letting the problem continue till a maxima is reached. Thinking that this problem is not going to hit me. Unfortunately, all the three approaches act as a positive catalyst in nourishing the monster that loves to devour the succour in the society. Pigmenting the core of problems with a plastic smile allows it to grow in isolation, assume an incurable form and steal nutrition from the same society that protects it like a parasite residing in a host.

Only those people are seen doing something to create awareness in the society, who are badly smitten by some or the other problem in the society and even there, the ratio of the total number of suffering people and those actually working to eradicate it is maddeningly high. Only when the cornering and suffering grows beyond all tolerable levels within reasonable limits, do some people come forward to take the plunge into the dumping ground called the ‘society’ to cleanse it. Even then a majority of people think of suicide as a solution to end their problems.

One such reflection of incidences can be found in the alarmingly high number of suicides by married men of late. It is a well–known and an established fact that in any marital dispute the sentimental balance of the law, law–makers and law–executioners lies with the female partner as opposed to the male partner. With increasing number of false dowry harassment and domestic violence cases coming to forth and the number of divorces also rising alarmingly, it is no wonder that each year 56,000 married men are committing suicides as opposed to 27,000 married women.

The situation is so pathetic and despicable, yet do we see anyone doing anything about it? The answer is no. Even those who are affected by it want a quick fix and want others to do something about it. And those who are not affected by it have at most a few words of sympathy for them and nothing else. Save Indian Family Foundation – the largest and the only non-government organisation (NGO) in India fighting for ’gender equity’ and ‘family harmony’ – receives over 200 distress calls from battered and shattered men all over India over its various helplines.

But how many of them are ready to volunteer for a fight to eradicate this social evil of ’misuse of women protection laws’? The answer is a discouragingly small number of a few hundreds. More recently we had a spate of unfortunate and merciless terror attacks in the form of eight low intensity serial blasts in Bangalore and 19 high intensity ones in Ahmedabad and two futile attempts in Surat. Analysis puts it as a total failure on part of the intelligence and surveillance agencies compounded with a condemnable low preparedness of the state governments in dealing with such situations.

And these blasts are not something new. We had quite a number of them in the last few years in Lucknow, Delhi and Malegaon among others. And yet such a big intelligence lapse! But who is bothered? Everyone thinks that as long as we are safe, nothing needs to be done. And truly no one will do anything either. People will discuss for a few days (perhaps I hope so, or maybe I am over–optimistic), media channels will run the stories for a few days, electronic and print media shall cover the event till they get something more sensational and then life will carry on as usual.

Even those terrorists who do this, know very well, that nothing is going to happen and this fact is the largest confidence–booster for them. So this question goes to the society that be it the case of any problem, does it still want to wait till the lightning strikes or is it ready to sensitise itself to sense over–impending social catastrophes and take steps to shatter its impact? Only the wearer should not know the pinch.